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Anger Management And Reacting To Loss,
Threat And Trauma
While we all must learn good anger management
tactics, it’s normal for humans to be angry, when they feel threatened,
or feel betrayed, and are able to express the pain we feel. Our bodies
are conditioned to prepare us to flee or fight when we are faced with
threats, and when we are angry, our bodies are flooded with adrenaline
and cortical, to prepare us to defend ourselves. We may not be able to
control our body’s reaction to loss, threats or trauma, but we can learn
anger management, and act in acceptable ways.
All anger is not bad. We can control our anger, rather than allowing our
anger to control us.
Sometimes anger is a justified response that can be used to allow people
to make, needed changes in their lives. At times, anger is justified in
unfair situations, and the energy that anger provokes is what it takes
to get away from harmful situations. Anger can be used to help you
protect yourself when you are in danger, or to help you take action, if
you are stuck in a bad or dangerous situation. Good anger management
techniques are essential in these situations.
Anger can be a way to deal with the feelings of frustration because
things are not going as the person wants, and poor anger management
skills can spell disaster in people prone to this type of anger. Twenty
percent of people have angry personalities. If you choose to be around
someone who gets frustrated easily, and expresses anger explosively,
your quality of life will be drastically changed by living with a
habitually angry person who has negative anger management techniques.
Check out potential partner's coping patterns, by seeing how he treats
the significant others in his life when he is upset. If he treats them
badly, chances are he will treat you badly too. See how he acts when he
is upset and threatened, especially when under the influence of alcohol
or drugs, which tend to exacerbate poor anger management skills, and
don’t be foolish enough to think you can change anger patterns another
has had many years to practice, before meeting you. Anger coping
patterns lie deep within the psyche and do not change unless the person
makes a strong commitment to become a better person.
People with poor anger management skills need a
structured program of anger management or therapy to learn how to change
destructive behavior.
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