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Anger Management And Causes Of Anger
We tend to learn behaviors from those around us,
and anger, like anger management, can be a learned behavior. If we have
lived with people who express anger, in negative ways, we are most
likely to use the same approach. The good news is that negative
behaviors can be unlearned, and positive ones can be learned to replace
the old, negative behaviors we have struggled with.
The key to changing old, destructive patterns of reacting to situations
that make you angry, is to learn what causes, or contributes to, your
feelings of anger. The following are common causes that provoke anger.
• Frustration and stress often cause people to react with anger.
• Being extremely tired can cause people to lose their patience, and
become irritable, and that can lead to angry reactions.
• Keeping feelings bottled up inside can cause people to explode over
minor issues.
• When people feel that they are not understood, or worse, that their
feelings are being ignored, and don’t matter, it can cause an angry
outburst.
Consequences of Uncontrolled Anger
Anger can actually cause, or worsen, health problems.
Anger can cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
According to several double blind studies, some over a 25 year period,
those high levels of hostility were directly correlated to dying not
only from heart attacks and strokes, but from cancer as well. Further,
anger that is kept bottled up inside, can lead to personality changes,
behavior problems, and depression.
Poor anger management is a key factor in domestic violence, child abuse,
relationship problems, behavior problems, workplace violence, substance
abuse, school and workplace violence and delinquency, and criminal
behavior.
Help For Those with Poor Anger Management Skills
Controlling the destructive aspects of anger, and reacting to it in
productive, rather than destructive, ways can even be healthy. Only
when your anger controls you, instead of you controlling your anger,
does it lead to problems.
Anger can cause problems with your family, friends, personal
relationships, and anger can effect your overall quality of life, but
anger can’t be totally eliminated from anyone’s life. Things will always
happen that cause you to be angry, and sometimes the anger is
justified.
Frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others are a
part of life that you can’t change, but you can control the way you let
things affect you, and you can learn, through anger management
techniques, to react in constructive ways, rather than the same, old
destructive ways that damage your health, and your relationships with
others.
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