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WHEN A MAN says to a young lady: “You are a very sweet girl,"
what does he mean? Does he mean that her physical being is like the
childhood rhyme: "Sugar and spice, and everything nice"? Does he
mean that her features portray sweetness? Is it her smile and
expression which prompt the statement that she is sweet? The answer
to all of these questions is—No.
Not many people realize it, but it is the mind which reflects
sweetness, or its opposite.
A sweet individual is one whose mind causes him to be generous,
understanding, sympathetic, friendly, and helpful.
When we think of someone as having a magnetic personality, it is
natural to associate that personality with his visible, physical
being; but this, of course, is not correct.
There are beautiful girls with personalities so bad they are
actually repulsive. There are girls with plain features, but whose
personalities are so magnetic they appear as sweet and charming.
What is the difference between these girls? It is a matter of mind.
The latter think in terms of giving, but the former think only in
terms of receiving.
There are two men very much alike from a physical standpoint. One
man is a good businessman. He makes money and saves money. The other
one just gets by. He earns a small income and spends every cent of
it.
What is the difference between the two men? It is a matter of mind.
One man thinks in terms of good business and sound investments. The
other man thinks in terms of earning merely for the pleasure of
spending.
These illustrations could be carried on for many, many pages. The
only difference between a writer and the one who does not write is a
matter of mind. One man knows he can write; the other one is sure he
cannot.
There is no important physical difference between the success and
the failure. Again it is a matter of mind. One man sees himself as
a failure; the other man knows he is a success.
As we make these comparisons we must conclude that the all-important
part of a human being is his mind. His mind makes him what he
is—whether that be good or bad.
Whenever one uses the personal pronoun "I" he is not referring to
his physical being at all. He means his mental self. If he says:
"I'm happy," there is nothing about his being, as such, which can be
happy. Of course, there is a physical response to the emotional fact
of his happiness. His lips will indicate a smile; the body may even
ripple with laughter, but without happiness and joy being in the
mind, none of this will happen.
If I should say: "You are a fine person," I am not referring to that
which I see. There is nothing about your skin, flesh, and bones
which can be fine or otherwise. It is your mind I refer to.
Doesn't all of this discussion give emphatic evidence to the
statement heading this chapter: "Man is Mind"?
"You are what you think you are" is a statement you will find in
practically every book I have written, and you'll see it again in
books I will write in the future.
Do you fully comprehend the significance of this simple expression?
It does not mean that you are you because you are tall or short,
dark or light, fat or lean. It means that the you which people like
or dislike is a reflection of your mind.
You don't have to be unhappy, you need not always be ailing and
complaining, you can be successful. In other words, within the realm
of that great mind of yours is the power and intelligence to guide
your life in any direction you may choose.
For a moment, think of some of the monumental achievements of man. A
streamlined train of many cars will travel at sixty or more miles
per hour, yet it is controlled by a single man—the engineer—and we
may go on to say that all of this is controlled by the mind of this
single man.
The largest ships afloat are guided by a single man. Of course, he
has his helpers, but there must be a master mind.
The giant airliners, carrying over a hundred passengers plus baggage
and mail, are flown by a single man.
In the beginning, these trains, ships and planes were first
conceived in the mind of man. They had to be created before they
could be navigated.
Now then, suppose I should tell you that you have—within your mental
self—a gigantic reservoir of power, most of which is unused. And
suppose I tell you also that just as the pilot drives his plane, the
captain steers his ship, the engineer speeds his train, you—your
conscious mind—can steer your Creative Mind so that it will guide
you in any direction you select to Health, Wealth and Happiness.
MAN IS A MIND WITH A BODY
One of my countless blessings is a curious mind. I must have been
born under the sign of a question mark. The adverbs How? Why? When?
and Where? are the most overworked words in my vocabulary.
When I first learned to drive an automobile (before the days of the
automatic gearshift), I was not content to be told how I should move
the shift lever to change gears. I insisted upon having the lid of
the gearbox removed so that I could see what happened when the lever
was moved.
I have always been like that. Why does it work? How does it work?
are just a couple of the questions always on the tip of my tongue.
Several years ago, while having dinner with a friend of mine, we
began discussing a provocative subject: the mysteries of man. We
talked about the power of mind and how it directed every cell in the
body; that to take away mind would leave a decaying mass of flesh
and bones. It was then that a great truth dawned upon me. Up to that
time I had looked at man as a body with a mind. But he isn't. Man is
a mind with a body.
It is important to understand this truth, and as simple as it
sounds, one must think about it quite awhile before he does
understand it.
In reality, that body of yours is merely a utility for your mind
—which is you.
Your legs provide you with locomotion. Your arms do the many jobs
directed by your mind. The food you eat furnishes fuel for your
"engine." Your mouth performs a dual function. It acts as a "hopper"
for your food intake, and as a mouthpiece for your vocal
communication system. Your eyes are for guid¬ance and your ears are
receivers for your communication system.
Your physical being functions in a dual manner: 1, to keep itself
alive and functioning and 2, to carry out and execute the dictates
of the mind.
CREATURES OF HABIT
This is a guess on my part, but I would say that at least 95 per
cent of everything we do is guided by habit rather than intellect.
When you awaken in the morning, do you dress consciously or
subconsciously? The latter, of course. As you shave your face, you
do not think about the manner in which you hold the razor; you do
not think about it at all. Your mind may be on your business. As you
eat your breakfast, you do not think about the way you use your
knife and fork. You eat without thought of the mechanics of eating.
If you are a typist, you do not consciously pick out the keys.
You keep your mind on the material you are putting on paper; your
Creative Mind guides your fingers.
A good automobile driver does not drive consciously. The use of the
steering wheel, brakes, accelerator and horn is all prompted by the
Creative Mind.
When learning something new, we are slow because we must think as we
act. When the Creative Mind takes over, we become faster and far
more accurate in that which we are doing. In other words, we become
good after the act becomes a habit.
Now then, is it too premature to say that if you are not happy with
your life as it is, all you have to do is to begin forming habit
patterns which conform to the life to which you aspire? No, it is
not, but only if you understand what you have already read.
We have been talking about habit. Let's continue on this subject for
a while, then you'll be given a routine to follow in developing
habits to promote Health, Wealth and Happiness.
Habits are not formed instantaneously. Do you recall the old adage:
Habit is a cable, we weave a thread each day, and at last we cannot
break it? This is true, only if we permit it to be true. Habits can
be broken, if we set out, intentionally, to do so.
If your body is below par physically, a physical culturist can show
you, in a very short time, how you should exercise in order to build
it up. But merely showing you how is not enough. You must follow his
instructions for a period of time before a noticeable change takes
place.
If you are not successful, if you are not happy, if you are always
ailing and complaining, it is because you are being guided by the
type of habit which makes these conditions a reality. You think of
yourself as a failure, perhaps one not entitled to success. You
believe it is your lot to be unhappy. The natural consequences of a
mind of failure and gloom is a body reeking with aches and pains,
which gives you more reason for your self-pity.
A friend of mine—a very successful man—told me a story which has a
direct bearing on what I have been telling you.
"A casual remark about me, which I should not have heard, changed my
entire life," this friend remarked.
"I had always been a ne'er-do-well, just getting by," he continued,
"but I always bragged about the big things I was going to do.
"One day I chanced to overhear a remark made by a man I thought to
be a friend. He said to another, 'Joe is a nice enough fellow, but
he is an idle dreamer, always going to do something, but never doing
anything.'
"It was that thought of being an idle dreamer which stiffened my
spine. I decided then and there I'd prove I was not an idle
dreamer."
This man changed his thought pattern. The "idle dreamer" thought
kept egging him on until he created a new picture of himself. He
began to see himself as a doer instead of a mere "going to" talker.
In time—not much—his new mental picture was complete and he became
an outstanding success.
TEST YOURSELF FOR NEGATIVITY
The negative person seldom thinks of himself as being negative. He
most likely will put up an argument if you even subtly suggest he is
negative.
I will give you a very simple test which will tell you, in no
uncertain terms, whether your mind leans toward the negative or
positive side.
Below are 25 ordinary words. Read these words slowly, noting
carefully what mental association goes with each. The association
will be either negative or positive. If you find you are negative on
most of them—be happy. I say: Be Happy, because a great change is
about to take place in your life which will give you Health, Wealth
and Happiness.
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1.Love |
5. Food |
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2.Crag |
6. Sex |
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3.Money |
7. Dark |
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4.Automobile |
8. Book |
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9. Rest |
17. Guests |
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10. Law |
18. Health |
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11. Water |
19. Animal |
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12. Letter |
20. Father |
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13. Garden |
21. Clothing |
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14. Maid |
22. Music |
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15. Boss |
23. Children |
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16. Home |
24. Write |
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25. Tests |
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Many of these words seem negative and others positive; but below
you will find that each can be either negative or positive.
Love. The association flashing in the mind of a negative person
might be: No one loves me. On the other hand, a mental picture of a
loved one might appear in the mind of the positive one.
Crag. The negative one could easily picture dangerous crags on which
his clothing could become torn, or he could be hurt in falling
against one of them. Crags add beauty to the hillside in the mind of
the positive thinker.
Money. Negative: debts, lack of it, etc. Positive: Comfort,
security, generosity.
Automobile. Negative: Lack of one, or condition of present car.
Positive: Enjoyable trips; fun for the family.
Food. Negative: Poor meals, indigestion. Positive: Pleasant repast
with relatives and friends.
Sex. Negative: Resentment if not happy with mate, or if unpopular
with opposite sex. Positive: Reverse of negative.
Dark. Negative: Loneliness. Positive: Rest, relaxation.
Book. Negative: Study, boredom. Positive: Enlightenment, pleasant
pastime.
Rest. Negative: Works too hard; no time for rest. Positive:
Recuperation, recreation.
Law. Negative: Traffic tickets. Positive: Order, protection.
Water. Negative: Drowning, rain. Positive: Swimming, boating,
cleanliness.
Letter. Negative: Bad news. Positive: Good news.
Garden. Negative: Work, expense. Positive: Beauty.
Maid. Negative: Cannot afford one. Positive: Makes the wife's home
work more enjoyable.
Boss. Negative: Slave driver. Positive: Promotion, income.
Home. Negative: Fighting, nagging. Positive: Companionship with
family.
Guests. Negative: Extra work and expense. Positive: Good fellowship.
Health. Negative: Awareness of aches and pains. Positive: A
condition worth striving for.
Animal. A nuisance, expense. Positive: Loyalty, devotion,
companionship.
Father. Negative: Strict, never gave one any breaks. Positive:
Devotion.
Clothing. Scanty wardrobe, cheap clothing. Positive: Reverse.
Music. Negative: Noise, annoyance. Positive: Peace, inspiration.
Children. Negative: Pests, expense. Positive: Fulfillment.
Write. Negative: Inability to write which causes one to dread
writing. Positive: Helps one to develop ideas.
Tests. Negative: Lack of faith in one's ability to pass tests.
Positive: Gives one an opportunity to try his skill.
Your reaction to these words may be entirely different from the
illustrations given; but from these illustrations you will be able
to determine whether or not your first impressions were negative or
positive.
Psychological studies have shown that 95 per cent of all people lean
toward the negative side. This figure coincides with the study which
revealed that not more than 5 per cent of all people are successful.
If you are among the 95 per cent of negative people, undoubtedly
your flash reactions to the words were heavily on the negative side.
If you find this to be true, as I said earlier: Be Happy.
"A fault discovered is half overcome" is a truism often heard. If
you are largely negative in your thinking, it is reasonably certain
that you are not enjoying as much success as you might like; that
you are not as happy as you should be.
Think then, with rejoicing, that your day of emancipation is at
hand. No longer will you be held in the bondage of lack, uncertainty
and gloom. You can literally tilt your head heavenward, throw out
your arms, and with unbounded enthusiasm proclaim: I am free!
MAKE A GAME OF POSITIVE THINKING
Copy the list of words on a piece of paper. When you have guests you
can suggest that they test themselves to see how negative they may
be. Discuss the mind and how it can lead us to success or failure.
Remember! The more conscious you become of the power of thought, the
more cautious you will be as to the type of thoughts you allow to
linger in your mind.
Here is another helpful game. Take each letter of the alphabet and
see how many positive words you can think of for each letter. Among
the positive words you could select for A, are Adorable, Admire,
Agreeable, Alacrity, Alert, Ambitious, Amiable, etc. For B you might
think of such words as Beautiful, Becoming, Beloved, Benediction,
Benefit, Bounty, etc. Proceed through the alphabet, thinking of as
many positive words as you can.
A good way to use this positive alphabet is to obtain a small card
file, about the size of the usual cooking recipe file. Get a set of
index cards and a quantity of blank 3" x 5" cards, obtainable from
most stationery stores. Take a card for each positive word and file
it after the correct letter. Soon you'll have well over 100 name
cards in your file.
Every time you learn something, or read something, about any one of
the positive words, take that card from your file and add the
information you obtained.
It is not likely that you will refer to this file often, but the
very act of keeping it, makes you more positive-thought conscious.
I CAN! I WILL! I AM!
In one of my earlier books I gave a formula which has been used with
great success by, perhaps, hundreds of thousands of success-seeking
men and women.
This formula is an extremely simple—and effective—way of
re-educating your Creative Mind, making it natural for you to think
positively, constructively.
For a full week, say to yourself as often as you think of it: I CAN
be a Success! Say it before retiring at night; when you first awaken
in the morning; several times during the day.
This fixes in your mind the fact that you CAN be a success. You will
agree that unless you know you can .succeed, there is little use in
trying. So burn this truth into your mind, even if, at first, you do
not believe it. After a short period of time you will begin
rejoicing in the thought that success can be yours.
But, knowing you CAN be a success is not enough. We all know lots of
things we can do, but unless we do something about them, the
positive knowledge is of little benefit to us. This brings us to the
second phase of this formula: For another full week (you can take
longer if you wish), every time you think of it, repeat to yourself:
I WILL be a Success. Do this many times from early morning until the
time you retire at night.
A great change will begin taking place within that mental reservoir
of power of yours. You will experience a pleasant uneasiness. You'll
want to test your new powers. If, for example, you have yearned for
a business of your own, you'll begin pre¬paring yourself for one. If
you have no money at all, it doesn't matter. Your Creative Mind will
guide you to ways and means of obtaining it.
But you're not yet through with your mental exercises. For at least
another week, begin telling yourself: I AM a Success. Do this many
times from early morning until you retire at night.
This statement may seem to be a bit premature, but it isn't. If you
have money in the bank, but none in your pocket, you know that,
without effort, you can write a check and obtain money.
If you have a success consciousness and know that you CAN be a
success, and that you WILL be a success, you have a ful¬fillment of
your desire.
All statements given in this chapter are facts which have been
proved, which are being proved, and which will be proved again and
again.
They may seem too good to be true, but do not rest upon that
thought. These principles are lifting others out of mediocrity to
leadership. If they do not do so for you- it is because you are not
giving them an opportunity to do so.
Before proceeding to the next chapter, pause a while and reflect
over this one. If it has not excited you, if it has not caused you
to overflow with enthusiasm, you have missed a point or two and
should reread part, or all of it.
Although I have been using these principles for several years, just
telling about them gets me excited all over again. I want all of you
to get out of life what these truths are doing for me.
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